- No Bollocks with Matt Haycox
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- Life’s unfair. So what?
Most people spend their whole life blaming something.
The weather.
Their job.
Their partner.
The economy.
Their childhood.
The government.
Their boss.
Their mental state.
“The market.”
And here’s the uncomfortable truth:
The more you blame external sh*t, the less control you have over your own life.
I hear it all the time:
“If it wasn’t raining, I’d be happier.”
“If COVID didn’t happen, my business would be bigger.”
“If people would just behave, I wouldn’t be stressed.”
No you wouldn’t.
Because you’re not reacting to them, you’re reacting to the story you’re telling yourself about them.
And that story is yours to control.
Here’s the no-bollocks version:
If your emotional state depends on anything outside yourself,
you’re screwed before the day even starts.
Because weather changes.
People disappoint you.
Plans fall through.
Markets crash.
Investors say no.
Sh*t happens.
But your reaction?
That’s the one thing no one can take from you, unless you hand it over.
Here’s the powerful shift:
Don’t say:
“Cash is tight, so growth is impossible.”
Say:
“Cash is tight and I’m adapting strategy.
So now what?”
That tiny change puts you back in the driver’s seat.
You’re no longer a victim of circumstance.
You’re someone who responds instead of reacts.
Someone who adapts.
Someone who still moves forward, even when it’s not ideal.
And that’s the mindset every entrepreneur needs.
You’re going to face bullsh*t:
Deals fall apart.
People let you down.
Teams quit.
Clients don’t pay.
Launches flop.
But if your peace depends on everything going right,
you’ll never survive entrepreneurship.
You have to choose the story that keeps you moving,
not the one that keeps you stuck.
Because the moment you stop handing your power to circumstances,
you become unstoppable.
If you want more conversations, advice, and no-filter thinking like this…
you should be inside my No Bollocks Growth Community.
Entrepreneurs, founders, creators, all helping each other level up.
And yes, I’m in there every week, answering questions directly.
Control your story.
Control your state.
Control your life.
See you on the inside,
Matt “Own Your Story” Haycox